Signo - in hoc signo vinces

“Just being together meaning just met each other? But when he just knew her, he said he was not interested in her and told her that he was going to introduce her to his friend. What was wrong about she called his friend?” 
“Isn’t that pretty normal to date someone else before deciding whom a person wants to be with?”
“When they just knew each other, FOS did not want to admit to her or anyone that she was his girlfriend even they had sex. (Besides that, at the same time, he was going after me. Of course, this is not the issue here.) Since she never got his confirm answer saying that he wanted to be with her, what was so wrong to call his friend up and found herself another chance?”
So I just popped up the above question (besides the issues he was messing around with me) to him.
He was not able to answer some of the questions, especially concerning with the time issue, he just kept on saying that he did not remember. And he kept saying that Ms. Chang just wanted to find a person to accompany with because she was lonely. He just talked down on her and the way he talked about her sounded to me like he despised her a lot. When I mentioned that to him, he answered in such a despised tone and saying that she was not even half qualified for him as a girlfriend, and she was not worth it. 
I told him that I felt quite absurd when he said that, since I and my other colleagues have seen her with one of her ex-boyfriend. She treated her ex-friend so nice that one would think he was her baby or something. How would she treated him-FOS so differently?

Then for no reason, FOS got pissed and said that he did not want to talk about Ms. Chang in any way and there was no need for me to understand everything.
Well… certainly I don’t need to understand or recognize or anything, but I remember I was not the one who started the topics involved Ms. Chang. He mentioned it first.
It’s just like a discussion, when someone said something, then you have questions, you ask. But his attitude made me feel uncomfortable, what he said was true, their drama was none of my business, he was the one who started the conversation, he was the one mentioned something he dislike first. The whole thing seems to me like :只許州官放火、不准百姓點燈。

Then I started to blame myself how I would have a good impression on him few years ago? Was I blinded or my eyes was covered with shit or what? It also made me released that I didn’t get involved with him personally any longer.

Today, I clicked the wrong nick on MSN list and accidentally sent a hi to one of my friend. This friend said he was surprised that I would say hi to him to initiate a conversation. I then sent him a smiling face and said no more. He then popped up a question asking me if my company got any job vacant, I ask why. He said one of his friend was looking for a job.
I started to ask him: “What kind of job is this friend looking for?””Where is his friend? Taiwan?” “Has this friend of his just graduated from school? “ 
He could barely answered my questions. He was only said that this female friend of his was just stopped her education since her family could no longer support her financially. She just got back to Taiwan, she wanted to find an administration job in IT field. “Why IT?” “Because if she could find an administration job in IT industry, she would find a chance to transfer into some jobs that are IT related.” This sounded quite surprising to me. I did not know that a person who was doing administration job could learn IT? Wow, then I guess if this is so, people who have majored in CS or EE and worked hard to graduated from it or spent time and money on some computer training school must be feeling like “spitting blood”. Well, I am sure there certainly are some talented people or geniuses who have the ability to do the administration job and then later transfer to the IT job with no difficulty, but if so, I think that those people would probably no need to do the administration job to waste their time, just simply find an IT job and do it.

Anyway, this friend of mine seemed not happy about me asking those questions, it sounded like he just asked casually without any seriousness, but I was not. It then became I was not happy about it because he wasted my time and I was working. Well, maybe it’s my fault, I should not have said hi accidentally in the first place, and that “hi” actually led me to the piss.

Is that I am the one who is erratic or they are? That’s why I somehow just find it hard to understand their behaviours.


p.s. If I called them “jerky friends”, does that mean I am one of the kind too? Oh, no… I won’t admit it and “friend” is just a term in general sense, does not necessarily mean they and I are real friends.